Control Or Love?

Imagine this…

You're an adult - but part of you still believes something outside of you controls your life. And that part creates chaos trying to take it back

The illusion is the feeling that something outside of you has control over you - whether it’s your life, your wellbeing, your nervous system, or your energy.

In relationships, we try to control the other so we don’t have to feel something. One person might try and to control how the other person feels, the other person tries to control what the other person does...

All so we don’t have to touch our deepest wounds, and feel out of control...

Parents try to control their kids - their choices, their emotions, their path. And when the kid doesn't fall in line, when they act out or push back, the parent punishes them. Not because the behavior actually warrants it, but because the parent feels out of control and doesn't know how to sit with that feeling. So they use punishment to regain power.

We try to control how other people perceive us, how they treat us, what they say about us when we’re not around, and even sometimes what they do with their own lives…

We use any means possible - manipulation, aggression, silence, withholding… whatever form of coercion or perceived power we have.

All so we don't have to feel powerless., or whatever the emotion is that we don’t want to feel.

And then we call it love.

But you can’t love someone fully until you’ve met, and learned to ‘love’ these parts of yourself that you’re so scared to feel.

When you free the emotions and patterns that have been stuck in your body, you stop recreating the same situations over and over again in your life, and you become free from your own internal prison.

But until you’ve done that, you will unconsciously expect others to fulfill your needs, validate you, and to treat you in a way that never touches your own wounds.

That is not freedom.

We all experience this, until we learn how to stop abandoning these parts within ourselves, regulate our own emotions, and truly love ourselves.

Once you’ve set these parts free, only then will you stop trying to control everything outside of you.

True power is awakened from within.

So my question is- where are you trying to control in your life?

Your answers to this question are the gateway to your own freedom.

True freedom that doesn’t depend on anything outside of yourself.

Where is your inner peace swayed?

The answer to that question point you towards the door.

When you can see this as a doorway, rather than something that has to be controlled or changed, you are ready.

And it doesn't don’t control you anymore.